Psalm 139:14 tell us that we can praise God because we are fearfully and wonderfully made; His works are wonderful, and we know that full well.
Let’s break that up a little bit:
- Fearfully and wonderfully made implies that God created us to be separate and distinguished. Over and over we are reminded in the Bible about this difference: Philippians 3:20-21tell us that our citizenship is in heaven and 1 John 2:15 tell us to not love the world or the things in the world.
- His works are wonderful is supported time and time again. Psalm 92:5 tells us how great His works are! Revelation 15:3 gives praises to His marvelous and great deeds!
There I was reading over all these verses asking myself how I’ve been able to teach my daughter (Leslie) she is fearfully and wonderfully made because God created her. What has my life application of these verses looked like in her perspective? What can I do differently? What can I keep up with?
Although generally soft spoken and quiet Leslie has grown into a confident little girl. The responsibility of nurturing that is of course the responsibility of both me and my husband, but I’d be naive not to realize the importance my role is as her mother.
I started to self-reflect on my strengths to answer those questions I listed above. I’m bold and can be outspoken was the first thing I wrote. As I started to reminisce on the many situations where I’ve been exactly that I thought, “Yesss! Absolutely I can run with this and claim 100% responsibility for Leslie’s confidence, right?" Not so much. My mind wandered into how those situations or conversations ended at times – my ego fully fed for all the wrong reasons. Ok, scratch that and let’s move on to the next one. I bake for my neighbors. “Yesss! Absolutely I can run with this, right?” It's taught her generosity and giving. Not so much. My mind wandered to how a handful of those baking moments entailed my being frustrated with a recipe gone wrong or my impatience with trying to teach Leslie how to bake (who am I kidding - trying to teach myself as well). Last thing that came to mind was that I always try to be an encourager. I started making a list of who I had encouraged recently, and I was disappointed when I could only write down a few names. I took in a deep breath and dug into the couch a bit more questioning my parenting in general!
As I went to get up, I noticed something on the TV stand. There it was, my Bible. It was right in that moment where it clicked. I knew exactly what I had been doing and will always do that will forever impact Leslie’s knowledge of being fearfully and wonderfully made. Leslie has consistently seen me reading my Bible and in prayer. She has seen and heard me rely deeply on God in the best of times and in the worst of times. She has seen in me the confidence yet the humility I have because of the trust I have in God’s promises for my life. She has seen over and over that no matter how far I fall off the wagon I redirect back to God. We’ve had countless conversations about what God’s word tell us when it comes to what we watch, how we talk, how we dress, how we determine success, and so on. She has seen her dad and me apply that into our home. Yes, she has seen and been part of all those imperfections I noted, but she has also been a part of discussions where I apologize and completely acknowledge my shortcomings. I have let her know that I am not the exception to being flawed just because I am her mom.
What can I do differently? A ton I'm sure, but no matter what I change I am still human and flawed. What can I keep up with? My faith. It is through my acknowledgement of imperfections plus the certainty I have in His grace that will continue to shape her as fearfully and wonderfully made. My prayer is that she will internalize it which will teach her to show grace to herself and to others, and to seek the Lord’s approval before the world’s.
Let’s all be reminded that He is who created us and that alone is why we are fearfully and wonderfully made.